It's been a busy month
Hey hey!
My mom has been pestering me to blog and I suppose it has been quite a while since I did that so here goes. It's been a very busy month as you can probably presume by my not blogging and the title of this one! So, here's August:
Weekend #1:
The long weekend.
I flew home, as planned, Friday right after work. Half of the goal of this was to get a budget for the wedding and talk to both sets of parents about it. I finally managed to get an idea of numbers and received some ideas from both sets of parents. Dan's mom had some good suggestions that I hadn't thought of before but there are a few things that she's pushing for that I don't want. She wants an evening wedding with reception that only has a night lunch. I want the traditional afternoon wedding so pictures can be done after and I like the idea of having a dinner. I have no problem cutting down my guest list so we can afford it but she claims this is something that shouldn't be sacrificed. It's frustrating but we'll get through it. I got some good suggestions about flowers from friends too.
Went to Abra's wedding. Shortest ceremony I've ever been to! It was a civil ceremony so there wasn't a lot of traditional things that had to be done. We told her we'd help out a bit with selling tickets at the bar. Turned out at the reception the only people we knew were Abra and Dave so selling tickets wasn't so bad aside from not being able to go dancing. We also helped clean up some of the garbage from supper. Her cake was incredible. Chocolate with delicious white icing. Yum!! At the end of the night as we were leaving we went to say our goodbyes and thank yous and congratulations. She offered anything she could do for our wedding to let her know. After we found out that her mom made the cake we asked about the possibility of her making one for us too! Abra said it shouldn't be a problem and it was the least she could do so at least now that's covered!
That is the happy couple, Abra and Dave, congratulations!
We went for supper Sunday night at Otawa japanese restaurant. It was pretty good. Then we went back to Dan's for the usual geekery: the lan party. Liz, Dez, Russ, Dan and I played a good couple games of Starcraft. It was nice to get out with them again. I miss them all terribly!
The girls!
and the foot shot!
The lan!
I came home after a long, stressful weekend with my final flight delayed a couple hours so I didn't get home until about midnight/1 o'clock in the morning. I was a very tired girl the next day. One of the days I was checking out the student site and I see under "Giving rides": "To: Saskatoon" "Leaving after work Friday, return Sunday." I said hey, why not, carpooling home is a whole lot cheaper than flying. I contacted the guy (Shawn) who was offering the ride and he said there was room for me so home I went for a second weekend.
Weekend #2:
Road Trip!
We left right after work on Friday which meant I got in around 1 am. We made pretty good time from the Mac and it was an amusing trip with 2 other guys (Andrew and Chris). We dropped Chris off in Lloyd so after that I could stretch out on the back seat and sleep and Andrew could put his chair back and do the same.
When I got to Saskatoon it was straight to bed. I was wiped! Dan and I went for supper the next night and when we got home we had, you guessed it, another lan party! It's pretty sad I know, but it was a lot of fun. It gives and excuse to hang out with my friends that I don't get to see when I'm up here in the middle of nowhere.
We went to visit my parents Sunday morning from which Shawn picked me up. He, Andrew and I had been invited to his parent's farm house for lunch. Mmm, homemade corn chowder and fresh buns with cheese and pickles followed by a freshly baked cinnamon bun (I'm getting hungry just thinking about it!) It was good stuff. Shawn took us on a small tour of the farm, showed us the land, the cows and the horses. Andrew was fascinated as he had never seen these things before. I found it nice just to be out there, I miss going to the farm!
From there we begun the trip here again. It will never be home to me. We picked Chris up as we passed through Lloydminster and got back to Fort Mac around 11 or so. I'd definetly do it again!
Two days later it was time to leave for CANJAC (YAY!!) in Ottawa. My plane was scheduled to leave Fort McMurray at 6 so I was out of the house by 4:30 to get to the airport on time. Super early, nobody should have to see that hour of the morning! Got my boarding passes, went through security and was waiting patiently for my plane which was to take off in an hour. All of a sudden there was a message over the intercom for anyone going to Calgary the flight was cancelled and to go to the front desk. As it turns out, when the plane came in the night before it had been struck by lightning in the storm and they wanted to inspect it before they would let it fly (which is good that they won't fly something remotely unsafe, but still terribly irritating as this meant I had had to get up early so I could get to Ottawa at a reasonable time so I could go for supper with some of the staff.) They ended up finding another flight for me that got into Ottawa at 7:30 and didn't leave Fort Mac until around 8. I called Jen, my contact in Ottawa, to let her know I would be arriving late and proceeded to sit around the airport for a few hours as it is a $40 taxi trip each way to my apartment and back. This flight went through Edmonton and Toronto so because it was a cheaper flight (more connections) Air Canada actually gave me a "free" meal. I didn't know they ever gave ANYTHING away for free anymore. It wasn't very good but it did the trick at least to satisfy me until I got there. When I got to Carlton University... finally... I unpacked and went straight to sleep as I was sooo tired!
I will tell you more about CANJAC when I return. For now I am leaving for the beach, I'm just glad to get out of the house! Later!
posted by Heather @ 11:39 a.m.
12 comments
12 Comments:
Sounds like you are terribly rude to your future in-laws!
I don't mean to be, I love them dearly. It's all just very frustrating and this is a good way to vent.
Maybe, it'd be better to vent in private? The things you said could be hurtful if any of Dan's family are reading this.
Maybe those people need to consider Heather's feelings as well. She is just as important too, and really her and dan are the most important people involved in planning their wedding.
It is her blog after all, she is allowed to vent. Really a blog is a journal that we have been given the privlage to read. You can always choose to not read it.
See: Fundamental Freedoms in the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms. http://laws.justice.gc.ca/en/charter/index.html#libertes
"Freedom of thought, belief, opinion and expression, including freedom of the press and other media of communication"
Give me a break with quoting the Charter of Rights and Freedoms. You should really learn how to spell when you write, there is a spell check feature on most computers.
Also, I would assume that Dan's parents are kicking in some money so really she should have the right to make suggestions. They may not be the best or what Heather and Dan want but there is no reason to be rude to the woman who gave birth to the man you are going to spend your life with.
If you really want it to be all about you Heather, maybe you and Dan should pay for the whole thing yourselves.
Yes most computers do have spell check; however blogger does not if you will notice. It is also not so important that you would use a word processor to draft a post. Come on!
Seriously, it was one word misspelled. There the correction *privilege *.
Maybe people should grow thicker skin and take less offence to people's opinions.
I don't mind her suggestions. I accept those whole heartedly. It's only when she gets pushy and upsetting to both Dan and I that it gets frustrating. I like to hear what people think but I don't like to be pushed into having to do something just because someone is helping us out with the finances. I appreciate it greatly however I still want this to be our wedding, not someone else's.
Oh honestly she is the bride give her lots of slack after all it is 'her' day as much as it is dans too if you really want to fight about it maybe you should consider your selves lucky you might get invited. With this much fighting I would recomend for them to Elope and not invite any one of these cheeky commenting people. And if your so nit picky in an argument to anaylize grammar then your argument is lost. Maybe talking to poeple about their concerns insted of anonymous comments would be better for all. Honesly though Its not really any of my buisness so I will just shut up now.
Sorry, who's getting married? I'm confused!
If a bank gives you a loan for a car, do they specify where you buy it from and where to drive it and what colour it should be? If the government gives you a student loan, do they tell you what classes to enroll in and what job to get after you're done?
I have received several monetary gifts from family over the years, ranging from $25 to $500, not nearly the cost of a wedding, but there is an understanding that the money will be put to good use: NO understanding on what that use is deemed to be!
A gift should be a gift, and while suggestions and opinions ARE valuable, they should not impact the value of the gift. If there are going to be loan covenants attached to this arrangement, maybe Heather and Dan should consider getting a bank loan where they have some say over what the covenants are.
Congratulations guys! Everything will turn out lovely I'm sure!
AJ
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If a bank gives out a loan for a car, there is an understanding that the money will be returned. With interest.
Gifts and loans are different concepts and carry different connotations. If you tire of your mother-in-law's suggestions, my only (admittedly unsolicited) suggestion would be to go the financially independent route.
While the thought of "my day" can be very dear to the heart of a bride or groom, the reality is that it's not just your day: it's your family's day too. Try to be less selfish and at some point you might realize that the details of one day are hardly relevant seconds after they pass, whereas the type of relationships you are entering into with Dan and his family are (hopefully) more permanent.
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